As my time talking about my experience being part of a high-control religious group is winding down, I feel as if I have discussed many topics that have been important to my personal growth. The remaining few are the most challenging and time-consuming to articulate.

The Spirit of Fear within the the Independent Fundamental Baptist (IFB) church is a topic that has taken significant introspection and courage to work through. Exploring the complexities of fear, its origins, and its impact within this religious context requires a delicate examination of personal experiences and communal dynamics. Nevertheless, shedding light on these aspects is important for encouraging understanding, empathy, and initiating conversations that contribute to healing and growth within and beyond the IFB community.

While I am not inherently a fearful person, delving into the intricate layers of fear within the context of the IFB church has compelled me to confront my own vulnerabilities and uncertainties. Unraveling the influence of fear on both individual beliefs and the dynamics of a religious community necessitates a candid exploration of personal experiences and the broader cultural context. This endeavor has not only deepened my understanding of the diverse dimensions of fear but has also reinforced my commitment to navigating the intricate paths of faith and personal growth.

Growing up I remember being taught 2 Timothy 1:7 from the King James Version (KJV), “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” This verse emphasizes that fear is not a gift from God but rather something contrary to the attributes bestowed by a divine spirit, which includes power, love, and self-discipline. Despite the comforting message of this verse, my experience within the group was characterized more by fear than the promised assurance it suggests.

In my years within the church, there was a constant dichotomy between the soothing promises of peace and comfort and the underlying current of fear and dread. The teachings centered on the idea that following the prescribed path would lead to tranquility, but in reality, it often felt like navigating a minefield. The fear of misstepping, of inadvertently deviating from the established norms, cast a long shadow over the promised peace.

Instead of finding peace, I found myself in a perpetual state of vigilance. Every decision, every action, carried the weight of potential consequences. The fear wasn’t just a theoretical concept; it was a palpable force that shaped daily life. The teachings spoke of a loving and forgiving God, but the atmosphere was often one of judgment and condemnation. From the time I was a child I was indoctrinated with the belief that my every action, or inaction, might determine whether those around me find themselves in Hell or not.Let that sink in, even as a young child the literal weight of another persons eternal damnation was on my shoulders.I found myself dwelling on it constantly whenever I met new people.

In this environment, the promised comfort seemed elusive, drowned out by the drumbeat of anxiety. It left me questioning the authenticity of the teachings and whether the prescribed path truly led to the promised serenity. The dissonance between the spoken assurances and the felt experience became a defining aspect of my spiritual journey.

High-control/demand religious groups often employ fear as a powerful tool to maintain control over their members. The fear instilled is not just a random emotion; it’s carefully crafted to manipulate individuals into compliance. Whether through the threat of eternal damnation, ostracization from the community, or other dire consequences, fear becomes a pervasive force. The teachings might emphasize love and salvation, but the underlying message is one of constant vigilance and potential punishment. This fear creates a psychological and emotional dependency, making it difficult for individuals to question or leave the group, as the consequences are portrayed as too severe. It’s a tactic that goes beyond spiritual guidance, extending into the realms of spiritual and psychological manipulation and control.

Fear can be a powerful motivator, but if one claims to embody the love of God, relying on fear seems contradictory. The contrast between the professed message of love and the use of fear tactics raises questions about the sincerity of the teachings and the motives behind such approaches. It prompts reflection on whether a message of love should be more inspiring than fear-inducing. Shouldn’t a message of love inspire rather than instill fear? The tension between these concepts speaks to the complex nature of religious dynamics and the impact they can have on individuals seeking guidance and connection.

According to 2 Timothy 1:7, fear is not of God, yet it seems the church consistently relies on fear as a means of control. This contradiction is something I grapple with regularly. I still find myself wrestling with more questions than answers most days. Despite this, I recognize that I can’t live in a constant state of fear. While I may not have all the answers, I’m determined not to let fear dictate my path forward. It’s an ongoing process of sorting through teachings and understanding faith beyond the confines of fear.

In no particular order here are some things that I was taught to be afraid of during my time in the IFB: (Keep in mind I am painting with a broad brush)

“THEM!”: Lets face it, without the us vs them narrative, there wouldn’t be nearly as much to talk about during IFB services. (You can read more about this topic in my post called Perpetually “Persecuted”? Understanding That People Are Not Against You, They Are For Themselves)

Worldly Influences: Fear of secular ideas, entertainment, and cultures outside the IFB circle is instilled to maintain a distinct separation.

Backsliding: There’s a fear of spiritual regression, where members are taught to be constantly at church and church activities to be vigilant against falling away from the faith. You can read more about this topic in my post called Three To Thrive: Controlling Time (In more ways than one)

Divergence from Doctrine: There’s a fear of questioning or deviating from the established doctrines, creating an atmosphere of conformity. (You can read more about this topic in my post called Can We Just Agree to Disagree? Or Not?)

Non- King James Version Modern Bible Translations: Some IFB churches prefer only the KJV translations and express concerns about the accuracy or perceived liberal bias in other modern translations. In my personal opinion, it seems that IFB pastors may prefer the KJV of the Bible because of its archaic language, making it potentially more challenging for congregants to understand without guidance. This deliberate choice could create a dynamic where congregants rely heavily on the pastor’s interpretation and explanation of the scripture, creating a dependence on the pastor for understanding God’s word. In my personal experience when I began reading a translation that was more accessible and easier to comprehend, it became evident that the teachings from the pulpit did not always align with the straightforward message of the Bible. This shift allowed me to form a more direct and personal connection with the scriptures, highlighting the importance of personal understanding and interpretation in one’s relationship with God.

While the majority of the verses I have “hidden in my heart” are from the KJV, my approach to studying and understanding the word of God takes me beyond the KJV. When delving into the scriptures for deeper comprehension, I prefer translations that offer linguistic clarity and a contemporary context. This choice allows me to grasp the intended meanings without the linguistic barriers often associated with the archaic language of the KJV. Exploring various translations has enriched my understanding of the Bible, enabling a deeper connection with the timeless truths it conveys. In embracing diverse translations, I find a broader perspective that contributes to a more well-rounded interpretation and understanding of God’s word.

False Salvation: An instilled fear that any misstep or failure to adhere to their standards could mean that one didn’t experience true salvation. (You can read more about this topic in my post called The Pressure of Perfection Growing Up Fundamentalist)

Hellfire and Damnation: IFB often emphasizes the fear of eternal punishment for those who don’t adhere to their specific doctrines.

Questioning Authority: There’s often a fear associated with challenging or questioning the authority of pastors and church leaders. (You can read more about this topic in my post called My Way or the Highway!” Unchecked Authority: Lack of Pastoral Oversight For “The Man of God”)

Cultural and Social Changes: IFB adherents may be taught to fear societal changes and evolving cultural norms, portraying them as threats to faith.

Interfaith Dialogue: Fear of engaging in open discussions with individuals from different faiths or belief systems.

Rock Music: those rebellious beats and non-traditional lyrics are just too much for their refined taste. After all, who needs a bit of rhythm and beats when you can stick to hymns? Don’t get me wrong, I love some of the classic hymns, but if Don’t Stop Me Now by Queen is wrong, then I just don’t know if I want to be right.

Personal Autonomy: Members may be discouraged from thinking for themselves and encouraged to rely heavily on the pastor and church for guidance and decision-making in all areas of their lives. (You can read more about this topic in my post called Abuse of Power Dynamics and Spiritual Manipulation at Places of Worship)

Democrats: Specifically democratic women like
Kamala Harris: Vice President of the United States
Nancy Pelosi: Former Speaker of the House of Representatives
Hillary Clinton: Former Secretary of State and presidential candidate
Elizabeth Warren: U.S. Senator from Massachusetts
Stacey Abrams: Former Georgia gubernatorial candidate and founder of Fair Fight Action
Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez: U.S. Representative from New York

Some fundamentalists may be concerned about policies that they perceive as conflicting with their religious beliefs, such as abortion rights or same-sex marriage. However, it’s important to remember many Democrats also have strong religious beliefs.

Progressive Social Policies: such as those related to sex education, gender identity, and inclusivity. (You can read more about this topic in my post called The Consequences of Being Forced to Make Black and White Choices in a World of Filled with Gray Nuance)

Feminism: Especially those women who dare to speak up and speak out and challenge traditional gender roles within the family and church. (See “Democrats” for specific examples)

Abortion: The IFB typically oppose abortion, viewing it as morally wrong and against their pro-life stance.

LGBTQ+ Rights: The IFB community traditionally holds conservative views on issues related to the LGBTQ+ community. They often oppose movements advocating for LGBTQ+ rights and same-sex marriage.

Secularism and Atheism: IFB followers are concerned about the rise of secularism and atheism, viewing these as threats to their religious values.

Globalism: Seen as a threat to national identity and traditional values. IFB adherents may express discomfort with cultural shifts that they perceive as moving away from conservative principles.

Non IFB Churches/Other IFB churches: The IFB community, being deeply rooted in its own interpretation of Christianity, views religious pluralism as a challenge to their exclusive theological beliefs. They love to view themselves as up against the world. (You can read more about this topic in my post called The Pressure of Perfection Growing Up Fundamentalist)

Environmentalism: Some within the IFB community might be skeptical of environmental movements, viewing them as distracting from what they consider more pressing spiritual matters. IFB churches that heavily focus on “End Times” teachings tend to feel that there is no need to take care of the earth and environment due to Christ’s return being imminent. (You can read more about this topic in my post called Happy Halloween: The Scariest Movies I Have Ever Seen)

Secular Education: Some within the IFB community may be wary of secular education systems, expressing concerns about the influence of non-religious ideologies on children. Many in the IFB choose to homeschool their children.

Higher education institutions, specifically, are often viewed as potential avenues for exposure to secular influences. The process of education encourages independent thinking, encouraging an ability to critically evaluate information. Within high-demand and controlling religious contexts, there can be apprehension towards individuals thinking independently, as it poses a potential risk of uncovering shortcomings in both leadership and theological doctrines.

Drug and Alcohol: Growing up I believed that if I ever had even one sip of alcohol that I would immediately become and alcoholic and my life would be in ruins!

Healthcare Practices: Views on certain healthcare practices, especially those related to reproductive health, and more recently vaccinations, might be shaped by religious beliefs. As a health care professional, I have sooooo many opinions about this topic. I will be sharing my viewpoint in future non-IFB related posts. Long story short: I am a huge advocate for personal liberty and choice, but letting your pastor and church think for you is neither. Vaccinations are a life saving privilege! Prevention is priceless!

Immigration: Views on immigration can vary, but some IFB churches and members overly express concerns about the impact of immigration on cultural and national identity. Typically, IFB churches that strongly align with Trump’s views often exhibit opposition to immigration.

This could/should be it’s own post, but I will briefly share my thoughts on this here…The Bible offers a multifaceted perspective on immigrants and foreigners. It emphasizes the importance of welcoming the stranger, practicing justice and fairness, and recognizing the challenges involved in integrating newcomers into society. Here are some Bible passages to back up this statement (all shared verse are KJV):

Leviticus 19:34:  “The stranger that dwelleth with thee within your gates, shall be unto you as one born among you, and thou shalt love him as thyself; for ye were strangers in the land of Egypt: I am the LORD your God.” This verse emphasizes the importance of treating foreigners with respect and compassion, remembering their own experience of being strangers.

Deuteronomy 10:19: “And thou shalt shew love unto the stranger, as he that was a stranger thyself in the land of Egypt.” This verse reiterates the call for hospitality and kindness towards immigrants, reminding readers of their own history as refugees.

Exodus 23:22:”Thou shalt not afflict a stranger, nor deal hardly with him: for ye were strangers in the land of Egypt.” This verse specifically prohibits oppressing or mistreating foreigners, emphasizing the need for justice and fairness.

Deuteronomy 24:14-15: “Thou shalt not defraud the hired labourer, that is poor and needy, whether he be of thy brethren, or of thy strangers that are in thy land within thy gates: At his day shalt thou give him his hire, neither shalt thou let it remain with thee until the morning. For thou wast a bondservant in the land of Egypt, and the LORD thy God redeemed thee thence.” This verse highlights the importance of fair treatment for all workers, including immigrants, and reminds readers of their own history as slaves.

Matthew 25:31-46: This parable of the sheep and the goats presents a challenge to distinguish between those who welcomed and cared for strangers and those who did not. It emphasizes the importance of compassion and action in response to the needs of immigrants.

Romans 13:1-7: This passage encourages obedience to authorities, which could be interpreted as applying to immigration laws and regulations. However, it’s important to note that this passage also emphasizes the importance of justice and fairness within the legal system.

Matthew 25:35-40: “For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me. Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’”

Based on Matthew 25:35-40, which emphasizes compassion and care for those in need, Jesus would express a concern about the potential lack of empathy or hospitality in the views of Christian nationalists regarding immigration. Jesus, in these verses, identifies himself with the hungry, thirsty, strangers, and those in need, emphasizing that acts of kindness towards the marginalized are akin to showing kindness to Him.

In the context of immigration, Jesus would encourage a perspective that reflects compassion, understanding, and a willingness to welcome strangers. He would emphasize the importance of seeing the humanity in all individuals, including immigrants, and extending a helping hand to those in vulnerable situations. The passage suggests a call to treat others with love and kindness, especially those who may be considered strangers or outsiders.

Breaking free from these ingrained fears instilled by past beliefs and community teachings is liberating! By challenging and questioning these fears, I empower myself to embrace a broader understanding of the world, diverse perspectives, and my own ever growing and evolving beliefs. Releasing the grip of fear allows me to engage in open-minded connections with a diverse range of people and ideas. As I break free from the constraints of preconceived notions, I become unencumbered by the limitations of fear. This transformative process enables me to navigate the complexities and fears and anxieties of life with a newfound sense of confidence to embrace each experience I come upon.

Disclaimer: It’s important to acknowledge that this is my opinion based on my own life experiences. It’s essential to recognize that not all people within IFB churches function in a state of constant fear. Some may be more openminded and respectful of differing viewpoints, acknowledging that genuine faith can coexist alongside diverse beliefs. People have diverse experiences and perceptions, and some may genuinely enjoy and benefit from their involvement in the IFB. I may disagree, but unlike what I experienced while in the IFB I do not intend to diminish or invalidate those positive experiences but rather seeks to highlight the complexities of personal perspectives and their role in shaping our understanding of the world.