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An Overwhelming TBR List: Wanting to Be More Intentional About What I Am Reading

I once knew a woman who bragged about the fact that she never read. I always felt bad for her because she has no idea that she is missing out on so many opportunities for growth, imagination, and connection. Reading opens doors to new worlds, ideas, and perspectives, and I couldn’t help but feel that by avoiding books, she was limiting her ability to expand her mind and experience life in a deeper way. It isn’t just about knowledge, it is about the richness that reading can bring to our lives, and I couldn’t understand why she would choose to forgo that.

I love reading. It’s my escape, my way to learn, and often, my source of comfort. I use Goodreads to keep track of the books I have read and the books that I want to read. I currently have 742 books on my “To Be Read” (TBR) list. That is an insane number of books. With every new book I hear about, I add it to the list, thinking, “I’ll get to that one day.” But for some books that day has never come, and I’m left with a list that grows longer by the week. What started as an enjoyable hobby has turned into an overwhelming list. There are just too many options, and the pressure to read it all can seem impossible.Although, not so humble brag, but since 2012 when I started intentionally reading more, as well as keeping track of the books I read, I have read an astounding 927 books! Even with such a high number of books read, there are so many more that I want to read…742 to be exact.

I realized that I need to step back and approach my TBR list more intentionally, rather than letting it control me. I enjoy reading, but I also enjoy checking things off of a list. So, I’ve started reflecting on how to be more thoughtful about the books I choose and, more importantly, how to be more selective about the books I add to the list in the first place.

Understanding the Overwhelm

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The first thing I had to do was admit to myself that my TBR list had become a bit of a problem. I added books because they were recommended by friends, because I saw them on social media, or because they seemed like the “right” books to be reading at the time. But the truth is, I wasn’t always in the mood for them, or they didn’t even align with what I was interested in anymore. My TBR had turned into a hodgepodge of random titles with no real purpose. I have grown and changed so much since I started that list in 2012, I have started looking through my TBR list and removing books that no longer align with who I am. I started by taking a hard look at what was on the list. Why had I added each book? Did it still spark my curiosity? Was it something I actually wanted to read right now? I still have more purging to do, but I have already removed a good number of books from my TBR list.

1. Setting Clear Intentions

I’ve started to think about what I really want from my reading. Am I looking to learn something new? Am I seeking a way to escape for a while? Setting clear intentions has helped me narrow down the books I actually want to dive into. For example, as I work on my Master of Science in Nursing (MSN) I’m currently drawn to books that explore population public health, so I’ve been prioritizing those. And when I’m in the mood for fiction, I know exactly what genres or authors to go for, instead of just adding random recommendations that don’t really resonate with me.

2. Prioritizing Books That Fit My Current Needs

Lately, I’ve realized how much easier it is to enjoy a book when it aligns with what’s going on in my life. If I’m going through a stressful period, I might choose something comforting or lighthearted. If I’m feeling more introspective, I’ll reach for a self-help or memoir. Being more intentional with my choices means I’m not just reading for the sake of reading, I’m reading what feels right for me at the moment. If I am feeling anxious or there is a lot going on, I am not going to be able to focus on a book that requires deep concentration or emotional investment. In those moments, I need something lighter or more soothing, perhaps a comforting novel I’ve read before or a book with simple, engaging prose. When my mind is scattered, the last thing I want is to feel frustrated by a complex plot or heavy themes. Instead, I want a story that can hold my attention without overwhelming me, something that lets me escape for a while without demanding too much of my mental energy.

3. Letting Go of Book FOMO

There’s a big part of me that wants to keep up with the latest trends and read the books everyone is talking about. But I’ve come to realize that I don’t need to read everything that’s popular. There’s no need to succumb to the pressure of reading what everyone else is reading just because it’s trending. I can read at my own pace, and if a book feels like it will bring me joy or insight, I’ll read it when I’m ready. Some people enjoy buying books and building their library, I prefer to borrow books from the library and have no problem waiting for a book that is on hold from the library. For me, there’s something satisfying about the anticipation of a book being available, knowing I’m part of a community of readers sharing the same space. It’s also a way to keep my collection from growing too large, which helps prevent the feeling of being overwhelmed by shelves full of unread books. Borrowing books also allows me to explore new genres and authors without the commitment of owning them, making my reading experience feel more fluid and flexible.

4. Embracing the Joy of Rereading

I used to feel like I always had to be reading something new, but I’ve started to embrace the idea of rereading books that I’ve loved in the past. It’s comforting to revisit stories or ideas that I’ve connected with before. Sometimes, I’ll pick up a book I’ve already read because I know it will bring me a sense of peace or spark new reflections. There’s no shame in rereading, it’s a way to deepen my connection to a book I know brings me value.

“A person who reads the same book twice is not the same person.” This idea reflects the notion that as we grow and change, our perspectives and interpretations evolve. Each time we revisit a book, we bring new experiences and insights to it, so even though the words on the page remain the same, the way we understand them can be entirely different. This speaks to how both the reader and the book can change over time, making each reading a unique experience.

5. Allowing Flexibility

Life changes, and so do my reading moods. Some books that seemed interesting six months ago don’t appeal to me now, and that’s okay. I’ve learned not to force myself to read something just because it’s on the list. If it doesn’t feel right, I’ll put it aside. I want to read books that excite me, not feel like I’m ticking boxes on an endless checklist.

I have a feeling that being more intentional about what I read will make a huge difference. I feel more connected to the books I’m choosing, and reading feels like something I want to do, not something I have to do. By focusing on what truly matters to me at this moment, I’ve been able to turn my TBR list from an overwhelming pile into something manageable and enjoyable. I’m going to savor my reading experiences rather than rushing through books just to cross them off.

The books I recommend that I have already read in 2025

Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City by Matthew Desmond**
Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson**
The Midnight Feast by Lucy Foley**

In case you are interested, here is a list of the top 10 books I read in 2024:

Yellowface by R.F. Kuang
Cloud Cuckoo Land by Anthony Doerr
The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt
The Dutch House by Anna Patchett
The Paris Agent by Kelly Rimmer
The Women by Kristin Hannah
The House of Eve by Sadeqa Johnson
The Lovely War by Julie Berry
The Night Tiger by Yangsze Choo
Here One Moment by Laine Moriarty

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Readers Are Leaders! Good Reads From 2018

A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies!

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I love using my library card! It combines two of my favorite things, reading and getting things for free. 😉

For the last several years I have tried to read a book a week.  This is the first year that I’m a few books short only 46… so close! Despite not reaching my goal, I have read some really great books this year!  Here are a few of my favorites:

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The Invention of Wings by Sue Monk Kidd 

“The Invention of Wings is a book written by Sue Monk Kidd. 
The novel itself is about a girl named Hetty (nicknamed ‘Handful’) and her troubled life as a slave in the early nineteenth century in Charleston, where Hetty is desperately wanting and waiting for a better life than the one she lives now. 
Kidd’s novel begins on the eleventh birthday of Sarah Grimke. She received her gift, and as her gift, she got Hetty, a ten-year-old girl, who was intended to be her handmaid. 
We follow the life of Hetty through the course of thirty-five years, as she struggled for freedom and destiny, which was very often filled with estrangement, guilt and sorrow. 
Perhaps, the best thing about this novel is that the author referred to a real, historical person of Sarah Grimke, and did a fine job in combining events of Sarah’s real life and fictional events, which were written in order to make everything even more interesting. 
The Invention of Wings is a very exquisitely written novel, a novel where storytelling is everything. Because in this book, we read not just about the lives of two girls (women later), but we also read about the darkness in American history, and the female struggle for freedom and liberation, which will leave no reader unmoved.”

Before We Were Yours by Lisa Wingate

“Memphis, 1939. Twelve-year-old Rill Foss and her four younger siblings live a magical life aboard their family’s Mississippi River shantyboat. But when their father must rush their mother to the hospital one stormy night, Rill is left in charge—until strangers arrive in force. Wrenched from all that is familiar and thrown into a Tennessee Children’s Home Society orphanage, the Foss children are assured that they will soon be returned to their parents—but they quickly realize the dark truth. At the mercy of the facility’s cruel director, Rill fights to keep her sisters and brother together in a world of danger and uncertainty.

Aiken, South Carolina, present day. Born into wealth and privilege, Avery Stafford seems to have it all: a successful career as a federal prosecutor, a handsome fiancé, and a lavish wedding on the horizon. But when Avery returns home to help her father weather a health crisis, a chance encounter leaves her with uncomfortable questions and compels her to take a journey through her family’s long-hidden history, on a path that will ultimately lead either to devastation or to redemption.

Based on one of America’s most notorious real-life scandals—in which Georgia Tann, director of a Memphis-based adoption organization, kidnapped and sold poor children to wealthy families all over the country—Lisa Wingate’s riveting, wrenching, and ultimately uplifting tale reminds us how, even though the paths we take can lead to many places, the heart never forgets where we belong.

*Library Journal”

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All 7 of the Harry Potter Books by J K Rowling

“Harry Potter’s life is miserable. His parents are dead and he’s stuck with his heartless relatives, who force him to live in a tiny closet under the stairs. But his fortune changes when he receives a letter that tells him the truth about himself: he’s a wizard. A mysterious visitor rescues him from his relatives and takes him to his new home, Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry.

After a lifetime of bottling up his magical powers, Harry finally feels like a normal kid. But even within the Wizarding community, he is special. He is the boy who lived: the only person to have ever survived a killing curse inflicted by the evil Lord Voldemort, who launched a brutal takeover of the Wizarding world, only to vanish after failing to kill Harry.

Though Harry’s first year at Hogwarts is the best of his life, not everything is perfect. There is a dangerous secret object hidden within the castle walls, and Harry believes it’s his responsibility to prevent it from falling into evil hands. But doing so will bring him into contact with forces more terrifying than he ever could have imagined.

Full of sympathetic characters, wildly imaginative situations and countless exciting details, the first installment in the series assembles an unforgettable magical world and sets the stage for many high-stakes adventures to come.”

Why Her? 6 Truths We Need to Hear When Measuring Up Leaves Us Falling Behind by Nicki Koziarz | lookingjoligood.blog

Why Her?: 6 Truths We Need to Hear When Measuring Up Leaves Us Falling Behind by Nicki Koziarz

“If success is defined in the eye of the beholder,
who are you letting behold your success?

Nicki Koziarz is confronting the comparison question: Why her? 

Through two striving sisters in the Bible, Nicki uncovered six truths’ we need to hear when trying to measure up leaves you falling behind.

These six truths will help you:

·      Stop staring at her success and find satisfaction in yours.

·      Find contentment with your life without being complacent in who you are becoming.

·      Gain godly wisdom to answer the Why Her silent question of your soul.

Someone will always be ahead. But that doesn’t mean you’re behind. Because Truth, like always, will set us free. And free women don’t have to measure up to anybody. Not even her.”

The Wife Between Us by Greer Hendricks

“When you read this book, you will make many assumptions.
You will assume you are reading about a jealous ex-wife.
You will assume she is obsessed with her replacement – a beautiful, younger woman who is about to marry the man they both love. 
You will assume you know the anatomy of this tangled love triangle.
Assume nothing. 

Twisted and deliciously chilling, Greer Hendricks and Sarah Pekkanen’s The Wife Between Us exposes the secret complexities of an enviable marriage – and the dangerous truths we ignore in the name of love.”

Not Our Kind by Kitty Zeldis

“One rainy morning in June, two years after the end of World War II, a minor traffic accident brings together Eleanor Moskowitz and Patricia Bellamy. Their encounter seems fated: Eleanor, a teacher and recent Vassar graduate, needs a job. Patricia’s difficult thirteen-year-old daughter Margaux, recovering from polio, needs a private tutor.

Though she feels out of place in the Bellamys’ rarefied and elegant Park Avenue milieu, Eleanor forms an instant bond with Margaux. Soon the idealistic young woman is filling the bright young girl’s mind with Shakespeare and Latin. Though her mother, a hat maker with a little shop on Second Avenue, disapproves, Eleanor takes pride in her work, even if she must use the name “Moss” to enter the Bellamys’ restricted doorman building each morning, and feels that Patricia’s husband, Wynn, may have a problem with her being Jewish.

Invited to keep Margaux company at the Bellamys’ country home in a small town in Connecticut, Eleanor meets Patricia’s unreliable, bohemian brother, Tom, recently returned from Europe. The spark between Eleanor and Tom is instant and intense. Flushed with new romance and increasingly attached to her young pupil, Eleanor begins to feel more comfortable with Patricia and much of the world she inhabits. As the summer wears on, the two women’s friendship grows—until one hot summer evening, a line is crossed, and both Eleanor and Patricia will have to make important decisions—choices that will reverberate through their lives.

Gripping and vividly told, Not Our Kind illuminates the lives of two women on the cusp of change—and asks how much our pasts can and should define our futures.”

The Alice Network by Kate Quinn

In an enthralling new historical novel from national bestselling author Kate Quinn, two women—a female spy recruited to the real-life Alice Network in France during World War I and an unconventional American socialite searching for her cousin in 1947—are brought together in a mesmerizing story of courage and redemption.

1947. In the chaotic aftermath of World War II, American college girl Charlie St. Clair is pregnant, unmarried, and on the verge of being thrown out of her very proper family. She’s also nursing a desperate hope that her beloved cousin Rose, who disappeared in Nazi-occupied France during the war, might still be alive. So when Charlie’s parents banish her to Europe to have her “little problem” taken care of, Charlie breaks free and heads to London, determined to find out what happened to the cousin she loves like a sister.

1915. A year into the Great War, Eve Gardiner burns to join the fight against the Germans and unexpectedly gets her chance when she’s recruited to work as a spy. Sent into enemy-occupied France, she’s trained by the mesmerizing Lili, the “Queen of Spies”, who manages a vast network of secret agents right under the enemy’s nose.

Thirty years later, haunted by the betrayal that ultimately tore apart the Alice Network, Eve spends her days drunk and secluded in her crumbling London house. Until a young American barge in uttering a name Eve hasn’t heard in decades, and launches them both on a mission to find the truth…no matter where it leads.

“Both funny and heartbreaking, this epic journey of two courageous women is an unforgettable tale of little-known wartime glory and sacrifice. Quinn knocks it out of the park with this spectacular book!”—Stephanie Dray, New York Times bestselling author of America’s First Daughter

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While I got most of my books out of the library, all of these books can be found on Amazon.com or at Barnes and Nobel

**All book descriptions are copied from the overview on the seller’s website.

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Birds On A Wire

I absolutely adore Karen Stubbs and her Birds on a Wire Ministry. She is so real and genuine! If you are looking for a great devotional I recommend her book Moments With God for Mom’s, it’s one of my favorites.

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Moments With God for Mom’s

“Whether you are a first-time mom of a newborn or a seasoned mom of a teenager, Karen Stubbs knows that you need encouragement and a little time out. This year-long devotional will meet you where you are and accompany you through the rewarding, challenging and God-ordained journey of motherhood.”

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See Me by Nicholas Sparks

One of my favorite past times is getting lost in a great book.I LOVE to read!   Over the last few years I have read about 15 or so of Nicholas Sparks many books.  Some have been better than others. While I absolutely loved The Notebook (then again, who didn’t) and its sequel The Wedding, The Longest Ride was another good one, yet I couldn’t even make it all the way through At First Sight.  I must also add that I don’t watch the movies that are associated with his books, so please don’t think that I judge his books by the movies. (Although, I have probably watched The Notebook 100 times.) On Friday I just finished reading See Me (published in October 2015).  After finishing this book I have come to a conclusion: For now I think I need to take a break from reading Nicholas Sparks books for a while…

Here is my summery of See Me (well actually the majority of all of his books.)

Disclaimer: If this were the first Nicholas Sparks book that I had ever read I would have loved it!  It was a good story and the characters were likable, but it isn’t the first one I have read, soooo…

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See Me and the majority of his books all follow the same basic pattern: insert name of absolutely beautiful leading lady and a gorgeous muscular love interest leading man.  They meet and realized that they are both the best looking people they have ever seen. While they instantly fall in love, there is some self doubt on one side or the other due to the struggles of their past. Something happens to cause a big fight between them, they break up! Don’t worry, the love story doesn’t end there.  Despite the fact that they can’t live without the other person, they will not call or even try to work something out, (probably due to the struggles of their past). Then all of a sudden tragedy strikes and something terrible happens to bring them back together. Due to the sorted past, the police cannot be asked for assistance with this tragedy and actually the police night might make the situation worse. Now that they are back together true love is stronger than ever. Now  they can face anything because they are together.  But wait, something even more horrific happens, the strength of their love is tested. (Probably the sorted past showing up again)… yadahya…True love conquers all! Happy ending! All this always set in a beautiful North Carolina town.  The end.

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My Recent Good Reads!

Obviously from the title you can probably already tell that this book is hilarious!  Especially if you are a mother you will relate to almost everything written in this book.  I really loved this one!

This book goes into great detail about the foot binding rituals.  It is also a great story about the complexities of realtionships with others and with yourself.  I was thinking about this book for a long time after I finished reading it.
This isa trilogy that covers the time from right before the first World War up until somewhat recent history. I recently read all three of the books in this Century Trilogy.  I highly reccommend the first two, the third one is only ok.

You know how recently all books want to say they are “the next Gone Girl”?  I kinda hate that… I think that this on claims the same. Despite that, I still highly recommend this book.

Don’t get me wrong, Gone Girl is awesome, and if you haven’t read it, you should!  Instead of reading “The Next Gone Girl”, why not just read another book written by the author of Gone Girl.  Both Sharp Objects and Dark Places are amazingly creepy reads.
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My To Read List

I love to read!  I love to go to the library and pick out new books!  These are the books that are on my current to read list.  Have you read any of these?  What did you think?
Click here to view Audiobook details for The Heart Goes Last by Margaret Atwood

The Heart Goes Last
Margaret Atwood
Click here to view Audiobook details for In the Unlikely Event by Judy Blume
In the Unlikely Event
Judy Blume
Click here to view eBook details for At the Water's Edge by Sara Gruen
At the Water’s Edge
Sara Gruen
Click here to view eBook details for Secrets of a Charmed Life by Susan Meissner
Secrets of a Charmed Life
Susan Meissner
Click here to view Audiobook details for The Zookeeper's Wife by Diane Ackerman
The Zookeeper’s Wife
Diane Ackerman
 Do you have any good reads to suggest?  I would love to hear what you are currently reading as well!
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What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty Book Review

What Alice Forgot by Laine Moriarty Book Review | lookingjoligood.wordpress.comDon’t let the 487 pages frighten you away!  When you reach the end you will be wishing for 400 more pages!

Laine Moriarty is one of my favorite authors!  She has such a talent for writing that you feel as if you are part of the storyline.  I became so engrossed with this book that I couldn’t put it down.  I am usually in bed and asleep no later than 11, nope not with this book!  I stayed up until well past 3 am just so that I could finish reading What Alice Forgot!

So yeah, this book may be categorized as chick-lit, but I found that it really made me think about my own life. If something were to happen to me and I were to forget the last ten years of my life, what would I think about my “new” life? Would I be surprise by what I have become?  How have my relationships changed?  Would I be surprised at the ones that are better, or which ones have changed for the worst? Have I become the person, wife, and mother that I thought I would be ten years ago? Would I be proud of the decisions that I have made over the last 10 years? This book really made me think about all these things.

Here is how Laine describes What Alice Forgot

“I realized that memory loss is a form of time travel. So I came up with the idea of a woman, Alice, who loses 10 years of her memory. She thinks she is 29, pregnant with her first child and blissfully in love with her husband. She is horrified to discover she is 39, with 3 children and in the middle of a terrible divorce. It’s like the younger Alice has travelled forward in time. Readers tell me that what they liked best about this novel was how it made them think about the choices they’d made and wonder how their younger selves would feel about the lives they are leading now.”

“Ultimately, Alice must discover whether forgetting is a blessing or a curse, and whether it’s possible to start over.”

This is one of my favorite quotes from the book:
“Early love is exciting and exhilarating. It’s light and bubbly. Anyone can love like that. But after three children, after a separation and a near-divorce, after you’ve hurt each other and forgiven each other, bored each other and surprised each other, after you’ve seen the worst and the best– well, that sort of love is ineffable. It deserves its own word.”

The Alice we get to know is in this book is so relatable and likable that you will become enthralled with her life!  I give this book 5 out of 5 stars and highly recommend you read it!
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Do you like to read?  I LOVE to read!!!  I wasn’t always a reader, but over the last few years I have become an avid reader.  I love to find a good book and devour it!  I am always looking for my next good read!

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In the next few weeks I am going to be sharing some of my favorite reads!  Right now I am in the middle of a book that I think might just have the potential to be a favorite…!lookingjoligood.wordpress.com